Failure

I feel as if everyone has a fear of failing, but not everyone uses failure or takes failure the same way. Some people might look at failure as a way to work harder and others might look at failure as the end of the world. In the book MINDSET, the author explains how parents would reward their children with praises and gifts if they were to get good grades or make a goal in their soccer game, and their kids would get use to it. This can be beneficial to the kids self-esteem but also hurtful, because when their kids do not make that goal or do bad on a test their going to feel as if they are less than what they should be because they wont be getting that praise that they are so use to . This goes back to the idea of a fixed mindset and a growth mindset those with a fixed mindset will do as i previously stated and look at that failure in a negative way, but those with a growth mindset might just look at as if its a step back but not the end of the world. I feel as if i have a fixed mindset because when i do bad, i beat ,myself up for it and give up , i feel as if there is no coming back from that bad grade and that it is the end of the world. Sometimes i just have to realize that i am in the only one who is standing in the way of me succeed instead of failing and the more i drown in my emotions about failing the longer its going to take for me to better in my classes.